analyse - subject to psychoanalytic treatment; "I was analyzed in Vienna by a famous psychiatrist"
psychiatry, psychological medicine, psychopathology - the branch of medicine dealing with the diagnosis and treatment of mental disorders
Yes, extreme weather can- will- highlight the emotions – authors often used
weather to set the scene for dramatic developments in their plots or
reflect the state of mind of the characters.
T said that she spent time chatting with you and that she felt you
were lonely. I am, by nature, a ‘carer’, so partly I would spend time
talking with you as I wanted to know about the people who were looking
after D and partly to show that you were not alone and to become a
friend to you. I used to talk to T too, and after she left I
thought that you would be more lonely and so tried to spend more time
with you for your sake. Maybe I was partially transferring my feelings
of loneliness onto you. I did and do enjoy your company so it was easy
to speak with you. As D has interacted less I find myself speaking
with you and A more as it is easier and more pleasant to talk with
you than with D.
I think you have sensed my sadness and sense of loss and my need for
friendship as you are a sensitive and kind person. Like a good friend
you have looked out for me and care about my health and well being. It
gives me a good feeling when a friend does something for me and pays me
attention as, since P died, I have become used to doing everything
for myself. I have missed the normal, everyday companionship that P
and I had.
I am very lucky to have my family and good friends. I have made some
new friends since P died. I want to thank you for becoming a friend
to me as well as looking after D.
I wholeheartedly apologise if I have formed the wrong opinion but for a
while I have thought that you may want us to be me more than friends. I
feel very flattered by this. I also feel embarrassed as I do not feel
the same way about you and could never as I am not gay. One day I may
meet a man that I want to share time with and possibly love but for now
I am do not want to look for him but I will not say ‘never’. You are
young and it has given me confidence to think someone, other than P,
could like me and it has given me a lot of comfort. Thank You.
I like you as a person and enjoy chatting with you. I also do not want
any awkwardness as we work together and want us to still be friends.
Instead of addressing it I have tried to ignore the situation, as I see
it, by trying to interact with you as I would with a friend from work
called a, (who is about the same age as you and lives with her
boyfriend, she is the one from Ch) if she made the same
comments to me or put her hand on my shoulder as you have. I know some
people are far more tactile than others and you have said you are a
very physical person. The physical contact from you up until several
months ago, and from a, feels different as you/she is/are only a
friend (we hugged when her grandmother died and when I was really upset
over P). But recently you have been touching my arm or my shoulder
and it does make me feel uncomfortable, although I try not to show it,
as I feel it is an advance as I think you have feelings for me. By
trying to be ‘neutral’ and by not addressing the situation I have been
dishonest with you and with myself. I have not addressed it before as I
still want your friendship and to be able to chat comfortably with you
and be myself but I have no sexual feelings towards you and do not want
these from you and so you should not have any such hopes. I have
wrongly encouraged you and taken advantage of you and am ashamed of
that. I hope you can forgive me and that we can work together and
continue to be friends and comfortable in each others company but
understand if this cannot be the case.
With friendship and apologies.
misunderstanding and be good friends because you are a lovely person. I
feel rather big-headed now and silly – I wish I had said something
earlier but we live and learn.
I was so lucky to be with Pete for so many years that I want others to
experience the same wonderful experience that I had and I suppose I see
all potential relationships in the same way. You say that you know the
emptiness of being without a true companion but do not seem to seek
this for yourself. Maybe we can talk about this.
You were being a true friend and telling me what you thought suited me
and making me feel good.
Yes, you can give me advice – but I may not take it! It is interesting
what you say about going to the gym to potentially meet people rather
than pilates etc. with just women, especially older women. Pete’s niece
worked in a small office, loves crafts (knitting, embroidery etc) and
so does not meet single men. She is now 32 I think and has not had a
serious boyfriend since she was about 19. I know she hates pubs etc and
I know she wants children. Anyway, let me work on my problems rather
Thank you – do not beat yourself up – put the bat down!
I will be round tomorrow morning before going to my sisters for lunch
and will bring the cake that is left. We just must not ignore Dad and
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